What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic violence occurs when a family member, partner or ex-partner attempts to physically or psychologically dominate another. Domestic violence often refers to violence between spouses, or spousal abuse but can also include cohabitants and non-married intimate partners.
There are three categories that abuse often falls into:
-Continually criticizing you, calling you names and cursing at you
-Isolating you from work, friends, family or social activities
-Humiliating you in private and/or public
-Lying and trying to manipulate you
-Threatening to harm you and/or other family members
-Using intimidation to gain cooperation
-Threatening to take your kids away or using visitations to harass you
-Using or displaying weapons
-Throwing objects at you or others
-Smashing or destroying property
-Driving recklessly with you in the car
-Pushing, shoving, hitting, slapping, strangling, spitting, or restraining you or other family members
-Insisting that you dress in a more sexual way than you wish
-Insisting on unwanted or uncomfortable touching
-Calling you sexually explicit names
-Video taping or photographing you without or knowledge or consent
Although some types of abuse are clearly more dangerous than others, all show a lack of respect and are an effort to intimidate and control you.
When thinking about leaving, each individual situation is unique. Project Woman is here to help you create a Safety Plan for your specific needs if you would like. If you are considering leaving, some key items to have with you at all times are:
- Driver’s license or other form of ID
- Birth certificate and social security card for you and your children
- Money, bank books, check books, ATM card
- Divorce and custody papers, copies of protection orders
- Medication, glasses, hearing aids, etc.
Adapted from ODVN’s Safety Plan for Victims of Domestic Violence